But lets be happy for the younger generations. We lived, or started to discover our sexuality during the peak of AIDS, socially totally unaccepted, gay marriage, open display of feelings, sexuality, all a taboo. associated with dirty old men, featherboa waving drag queens or leather daddies, preying on young innocent kids. Should’t we be happy that the future generations will not have to face the same struggles as we had to face? We were the “faggots”, “fairies” etc…. Well, it can be understood that some people are jealous, but then again, what for. Although being an asshole still is no matter if they are straight or gay. Being gay isn’t the social problem it used to be. I’m happy for the young generation of gays. Observing them I have felt that being gay doesn’t have the stigma it did when I was growing up. All of our kids consider each other siblings and get along great. If I would run into him downtown, he’d walk up and give me a big hug. I thought his son would take it the hardest being a male. Much to our amazement our kids are our biggest supporters. I am now married to a great guy, Dan, who also was previously married and has three kids. She soon told me I had to tell the girls because they were not buying that we were no longer getting along and wouldn’t let her be. I promised I wouldn’t come out to my kids or her mother. “He won’t take me seriously as long as I’m married”. My wife and I had a good marriage until she confessed she was seeing someone else and wanted a divorce. Previously I was married, a father of two and constantly struggled with my sexuality. Gay or strait these kids growing up nowadays are a piece of work. How can one walk into the same gym, bar, grocery story and even job, see the same people every day, week after week, month after month, year after year and not open their mouthes and say hello, or at least acknowledge a smile or nod of the head with the same? If I go to the grocery store and see you a second or third time and our eyes meet I am going to say hello because that is my personality and how I feel that I was brought up.
Too many of these stuck up kids seem to think the word hello translates to lets have sex. I am not singling out any particular group or region because I have had incidents here in the midwest that I too experienced in NYC as to having what I refer to as manners and social skills put to the test. He wouldn’t have been turned away at neither because he was a paying customer and that was what they look for but once inside thats where it ended. He says he started to go to the Blatino Oasis party but that incident really made him change his mind once the reality of just how old he and his values set in. He says he looks back and sees himself as gay but they crowd as DL (hey, you go figure that one). He says he left after thirty minutes or so into the show and have never went anywhere that left him feeling that lonely and out of place even though he too was black and gay. He was being friendly but there were looking at him more or less like “what makes your old ass think I want you”. He says as soon as he got there the first thing he noticed was the blank stares he got when he smiled at people that WERENT participants. He went alone because everyone he tried to get to go with him told him that was not meant for “us”, older gay men. My friend said that he was going to go to it the following year (January). In this vid the guys were HOT! But also what I noticed immediately was not only how young and hot the participants were but also how young the crowd was ( very few appeared to be over forty more or less). It was a youtube vid showing a ball called BQ Sex Siren. Two years ago I got an email from a black friend who still lives in NYC who is the same age I am (59). We came from a generation where instant gratification was not a matter of whipping out ones cellphone and going to a hookup or body worshiping website.
Between Youtube, Facebook and MySpace you guys clearly never learned the art of face to face socialization and need a reality check. If you asked me I think its you guys with the social problems, not us. From the article: “Did you hear that, you old queens? You’re just mad at these other generations of LGBTQ people because they’re younger and more confident than you!”